Sadness often creeps into our consciousness without our permission or even awareness. Without vigilance, it can take control of our thoughts and general life perspective. It is so easy to live in a cloud of nebulousness and believe that sadness is truth. Whether we see through positive lenses or negative lenses, the effort is the same. When we live habitually without awareness and without alertness and acuity, we completely abandon our power over living life fully.
Sadness is a master of disguise. We believe sadness as if it were the truth of our life. We identify with sadness. We think it is us. We often forget that we are not sad. We may have feelings of sadness within us, but we ourselves are not sad. Sadness has a way of enveloping us, tainting how we see ourselves, people, our entire lives. It is seeing the world through dirty glasses. It doesn't mean the world is dirty, it only means we have to put in the effort to clean our perspective. When we feel despondent, it is extremely difficult to make any effort. We feel so heavy that we believe we are incapable of making any change. We have tremendous weight on our shoulders and feel that one more thing will completely break us. These feelings are so much more normal than people realize. They can also be changed through changing the habits of our thoughts.
Without realizing it, it takes effort to be sad. We can use that momentum of being actively sad and turn it around. We can learn to find balance. We can actively be aware of our thoughts and strengthen our inner voice that is responsible for the quality of our lives. There is a beautiful parable that has recently become more well known, which explains this beautifully. (Taken from http://www.sapphyr.net/natam/two-wolves.htm).
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.
“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
In order to conquer our inner hurt, we must actively feed the good wolf. Whether you feed one wolf or you feed the other, the effort is the same. When we do not know how to actively nourish the good wolf, it feels as if no matter what we do, the sadness and negativity will win, however, this is absolutely untrue. We can change our thought pattern to overcome the habitual thinking that hurts us and stagnates us. It is possible and it will happen with tenacity and awareness. It is not such a mountain to overcome although it feels that this mountains reaches way past the sky. It is possible to rid ourselves of this heaviness without an exhausting effort. To find out how to identify the good wolf and easily feed it, book a session today.